I want a divorce!

Seriously I swear I hear these 4 little words everywhere. Now I’ll clear something up, I love my husband. I am not going anywhere. He is my world even when I’m upset with him. But there are many couples out there that have let the hard times get to them. I understand how hard marriage is. 1 out of 5 adults (22%) has never been married. Out of these marriages, 1 out of 3 have been divorced at least once, according to a new study from The Barna Group.

Now I have been divorced twice. The first time I was told it was best and a little lying was done to get me to say I do. Within a month, I realized my life was in danger. I was not only physically abused but I was verbally and emotionally abused as well. 1 month after we were wed, he told me that my brakes had been replaced and I was free to drive it. We lived 15 miles from town. Within 2 miles from our home, I rolled my car with my infant daughter inside. It got progressively worse after that. I was far from family and knew I had no one to turn to. So I began my escape. It wasn’t like I could just up and leave. Anyone in that kind of relationship understands.

The second time I was divorced and found myself in a marriage built on lies. Everything I believed in had been a lie. Instead of working, he’d go sit in a parking lot somewhere and drink or go to the casinos. He basically refused to change and didn’t want to be married. So my ideas on marriage dwindled. I didn’t believe in forever anymore. Then I met Stoney. He was in the same place as I was. Now I start to wonder why people even get married if the end result is divorce. I wanted that person that would fight for me and love me more than his own life. I found that. But as I look at others, I see that I’m a lucky one. Not many people will find this love. Those that do are a rare breed.

I don’t blame those who want a divorce. I have seen my own parents go through one recently because they just fell out of love.  I know sometimes that happens. What I don’t get is if that is the only reason, why not try harder? Marriage takes work. There will be days you can’t stand the other person but then there are the days that are absolutely amazing. The days that make you fall more in love with that person than you ever thought possible. Of course, only the people in the marriage know what they did to fight for their marriage. Sometimes that fight will  wear a person down. We are only human.

My question is this: Do you think it’s too easy to get married? Should it be a little harder to get married to keep our divorce rates down?

Now tell me ONE thing you are grateful for your husband or significant other. If you are single, tell me ONE thing you look for in the opposite sex.

I will start by saying I am more than grateful to my husband for working on our marriage as hard as I do. For being a rock when I need one. I know I can’t lose with him in my corner.