He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning,

it will be reckoned a curse to him. (Proverbs 27:14)

THE DARE

Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior.

THE OUTCOME

Last night I sat down with Stoney and I asked him, “what are three things that I do that make you uncomfortable or upset you.” Of course this is a question I was thinking about all day. I am very sensitive and wanted to prepare myself not to justify or attack him. His answer just got me giggling. He said “well you never make me uncomfortable. You do irritate me when you bake or cook something and don’t rinse it out. But that’s it.” So I decided to give him my own thoughts on what I do to irritate him.

1. I nag him about his drinking and chewing. I can actually live with the drinking. It’s the chewing that disgusts me!
2. When I’m mad at him or hurt, I don’t talk to him and I will hang up on him.
3. I am a terrible backseat driver when it comes to him!

So there are my three things that I recognize. I think that it is just as important for you to realize what you do to your spouse as it is for them to. I know that when I try to tell him what he does that bothers me, he gets defensive and won’t admit it. Then this turns into an argument which seems like an endless circle.